Domestic violence can be difficult to identify, especially for the person experiencing it.
People sometimes misunderstand domestic violence and think it is only physical abuse when actually it can be emotional, financial and/or sexual abuse as well. Abusers often manipulate victims so that they feel they are to blame for the abuse. Sometimes GLBT abusers will try to tell their partners that “this is how it is in a GLBT relationship”. Abusers often promise to change their behavior, and the hope for that positive change can keep a victim from identifying the pattern of abuse in the relationship.
The information on these pages is designed to help individuals explore their relationships and to determine for themselves whether or not their relationship is abusive.
Beware if someone is showing you this information to prove to you that you are an abuser. There is no checklist that can determine whether someone is an abuser, one needs to consider the entire relationship and not take individual incidents out of context. If you are unsure, talk it over with someone objective – or contact a GMDVP advocate.
Remember, if you have questions about any of the material on this website, you can always contact a GMDVP victim advocate who would be happy to talk with you.