*** BREAKING NEWS *** Probable Cause Found in Gay Man’s Discrimination Suit Against Mainstream Domestic Violence Program

The Massachusetts Commission Against Discrimination (MCAD) has found that a gay male domestic violence survivor has probable cause in his discrimination complaint against the R.O.S.E. Fund.

The complainant (whose name is being withheld to protect his privacy) is in need of facial reconstructive surgery to repair broken facial bones and teeth suffered during an abusive relationship. The complainant attempted to apply for The R.O.S.E. Fund’s facial reconstructive surgery program but was told that he could not apply due to his sex. The R.O.S.E. Fund routinely provides free access to facial reconstructive surgery to female victims of domestic violence.

GMDVP’s Legal Assistance for Victims program is funded to provide holistic legal services around a survivor’s experience with domestic violence. Often our legal work is specifically focused on overcoming GLBTQ-based discrimination for the survivors we represent (such as with the police and criminal justice system). This time, the survivor came to GMDVP requesting assistance in overcoming discrimination from another domestic violence organization, The R.O.S.E. Fund.

GMDVP worked to encourage The R.O.S.E. Fund to respond appropriately to the survivor before finally moving forward with the MCAD complaint — which alleged discrimination on the basis of sex in a place of public accommodation and in the provision of services. The complainant is not seeking monetary damages, only that he be provided the requested facial reconstructive surgery and that the R.O.S.E. Fund change its policy and stop discriminating in the provision of services on the basis of an applicant’s sex.

The R.O.S.E. Fund has defended its policy to limit services to female survivors of domestic violence arguing “that including men it its programs would detract from its purpose, and discourage volunteer and financial supporters.” MCAD rejected the R.O.S.E. Fund argument that exclusion of males is based on a legitimate and non-discriminatory determination that female domestic violence survivors suffer unique self-esteem issues that male domestic violence survivors do not.

The State of Massachusetts is clear in its messaging to contractors and grant recipients that state-funded domestic violence services must be available to all survivors. However, some domestic violence programs, such as the R.O.S.E. Fund, have argued that it is appropriate to deny services to victims based on gender. GLBTQ advocates have argued that denying services based on gender and/or sexual orientation is discrimination.

Curt Rogers, GMDVP’s Executive Director, is a gay male survivor who was repeatedly denied access to domestic violence shelters when he was fleeing an attempted murder at the hands of his abusive partner. “As a victim who was denied services, it is clear to me that denying access based on gender or sexual orientation is straight-forward discrimination. It is also devastating to GLBTQ victims who are then re-traumatized, left without support and, in many cases, more likely to experience continued and escalating abuse.”

Pierre Berastain, Co-Chair of the GLBT Domestic Violence Coalition, stated “GLBTQ individuals experience domestic violence at rates equal to or higher than heterosexual women. I hope the MCAD probable cause finding helps programs see that blocking GLBTQ survivors’ access to services is not only wrong, but also illegal.” Wayne Thomas, GMDVP’s attorney representing the complainant, indicated that “the case could set a clear precedent about access to domestic violence services and that it is especially important for traditionally marginalized GLBTQ victims.”

GMDVP is aware that this case may be controversial for some in the domestic violence and sexual assault community and that it may set legal precedent with implications for some domestic violence programs. At the end of the day, GMDVP is providing legal services to a survivor who is requesting equal access to facial reconstructive surgery and we trust the community will stand with us in support of this survivor.

GMDVP has advocated to increase access to services for GLBTQ victims of domestic violence since its inception in 1994. In the past 5 years, the organization has provided technical assistance to mainstream domestic violence programs that are transitioning into fully inclusive programs.

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Sneak Peak: Halloween Party Silent Auction!


GMDVP’s Halloween Party just got hotter! As if the glitz of emcee Kris Knievil and beats of ((((Group Hug)))) Nathanael Bluhm and BRDR weren’t enough… we’ve also released a sneak peek at our silent auction!

Bid on (and win) one of our signature auction packages:

Photography by Moyan Brenn

Paris Nights Treat yourself and that special someone to a week of Parisian delights! Enjoy 6 nights/7 days in a private Paris apartment – perfect for a winter or summer getaway! Accommodations include a fully-equipped kitchen, laundry, multi-language television, and free wi-fi. Then, relive your Paris memories through Executive Chef Christopher Coombs’ contemporary French cuisine during a dinner for two at Deuxave upon your return stateside. Package includes coach air travel for two from the U.S. to Paris.

Boston Staycation Get away from it all without leaving Beantown! Enjoy dinner for two on the town, relax in contemporary luxury at the Ames Hotel, and indulge in a leisurely brunch for two!

Sunset Sailing Relax as you watch the sun sink behind the Boston skyline while you gently cruise out to the Harbor Islands on a 30 foot Sabre sailboat. Your private sail for 2-3 people includes wine, nibbles, and 3 hours of pure ocean bliss.

Provincetown Getaway Summer is calling and so is a weekend in Provincetown! Whisk away on the PTown ferry and prepare to be pampered a the Anchor Inn Beach House. Enjoy a home-baked brunch before heading out for salon treatments at SNIP and P-Town Massage. End your day with waterfront fine dining at The Mews before crawling into bed- relaxed and refreshed!

Photography by Bill Holmes

Wine and Dine Grab four of your closest friends and head for classic New England and European-inspired cuisine at Eastern Standard. Enjoy sophisticated fare while you tantalize your taste buds with delicious wine pairings drawn from locales across the globe.

Master Chef Budding chefs will delight in learning new tricks with one of ArtEpicure’s cooking classes. Whether you’re hoping to perfect your technique or learn the secrets of a particular region, ArtEpicure’s classes will inspire the Julia Child in you! Then, relax after class with a delicious dinner for two at Flora Restaurant.

Feature Film Calling all movie critics! Now you can take in all the new flicks with a 10-pass package to AMC movie theaters.

Winter Skating Do you dream of twirling on the ice like a pro? Perfect your moves with a one-hour lesson from three-time U.S. bronze medalist and 2006 Olympic figure skater Matt Savoie at the Boston Frog Pond, then relax and talk shop over hot chocolate and treats on Newbury.

Also featuring packages with donations from: Acote, Club Café, Elizabeth Grady, Emerald Necklace Conservancy, Etant, The Fireplace, Garden at the Cellar, Geoffrey’s Boston, Jillian’s/Lucky Strike, Lineage, MAC, NewRep Theater, Sault New England, Speakeasy Stage Company, The New England Aquarium, Upstairs on the Square…and many more!!!

And remember, if you buy your tickets before October 26th, you’ll receive free entry into Chris Harris Presents Hot Mess Halloween!

We’ll see you there!

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Save the date: GMDVP Halloween Party October 28th!

GMDVPInvitation for 15th Annual Halloween Party to benefit The Gay Men's Domestic Violence Project is celebrating Halloween with costumes, dancing and you!

Join us on Sunday, October 28th, 6:00-10:00pm at The Estate Boston and help GMDVP raise critical funds for domestic violence services. Silent Auction surprises include a Boston “staycation” at the Ames, a week in Paris, and R+R in Provincetown. Come dance the night away with us, bid on our one-of-a-kind auction packages and show off your best Halloween costume!

Buy your VIP ($80) and General Admission ($40) tickets today!

BREAKING NEWS: Lady of the night Kris Knievil will be emceeing the Halloween Party!

Come and dance the night away with ((((GROUP HUG)))) deejays Nathanael Bluhm and BRDR with visuals by MizoFizo!

Then, if you’re lucky, get caught on the dance floor with one of the lovely Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence!

Buy your tickets before October 26th online and you’ll get into Chris Harris Presents Hot Mess Halloween for free!

Get a sneak peak at our silent auction packages!

Special thanks to our sponsors:















Boston Private Bank + Trust Company

Fenway Community Health Center

People’s United Bank


Mass LGBT Bar Association






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Upcoming Support Groups

Did you know that GMDVP offers free support groups for survivors of domestic and sexual violence? Read on for information about two of our upcoming groups.

Western Mass: CIRCLES Support Group

GMDVP and the YWCA of Western Massachusetts are collaborating together to facilitate a support group for GLBTQ survivors of sexual violence. The group will run for 8-10 weeks this fall at the YWCA of Western Massachusetts in Springfield, MA. The trauma informed and empowerment based group will be co-facilitated by both agencies. Ages 25+ and people of all gender identities are welcome. For more information contact GMDVP’s hotline at 1.800.832.1901

Cape Cod: Male Survivor’s Recovery Group

Independence House and Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project are collaborating together to facilitate a Male Survivor’s Recovery Group. This group is for any person identifying as male (straight, gay, trans) who is a survivor of domestic and/or sexual violence and resides on Cape Cod. Anyone interested in participating in this group can email capeadvocate@gmdvp.org or call 1.800.832.1901 for more information.

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Thank you for making Boston Pride a huge success!

Boston Pride is over and the sunshine is still with us! We at GMDVP enjoyed celebrating with all of you this weekend. Our Pride in review:

On Friday evening we gathered at the Boston Common for the Dyke March. Staff tabled and handed out GMDVP hotline cards, consent is sexy! stickers, and our signature relationship fortune tellers. We then joined hundreds of others for the march, which looped down to Copley before heading back to the Common. Thanks to everyone who stopped by our table to chat and get to know us!

GMDVP marches in the 2012 Boston Pride Parade

Saturday was the big event: Boston Pride Parade! On Saturday morning 80 GMDVP supporters gathered at Brownstone in Back Bay for our annual Pride Brunch. We enjoyed show tunes, a scrumptious breakfast and Brownstone’s signature mimosas while celebrating our successes and saying thank you to our long-term and new supporters. If you couldn’t make it don’t worry, we’ll plan to see you there next year!

After Pride Brunch the GMDVP team took to the streets for the parade. Our contingent was 35 strong and very enthusiastic! As the parade snaked it’s way from Copley to Government Center, we handed out palm cards and waved at the crowd.

Finally, the team gathered at Government Center to hand out over 500 GMDVP t-shirts. All were hastily grabbed up by our fellow Pride-goers, and we look forward to seeing GMDVP t-shirts all over the city this summer!

Thank you to all of our volunteers and community sponsors. You really made Boston Pride 2012 come together next year! We invite everyone to join us next year- for brunch, tabling, and marching in Boston’s Dyke March and Pride parade.

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Sunshine forecasted for Pride Brunch!

While  it’s easy to feel bogged down in all the rain Boston has experienced this past week, we at GMDVP are looking ahead to Boston Pride weekend! Saturday’s forecast is sunshine and high seventies – a perfect day for enjoying Boston Pride events.

We are kicking off Pride morning with our annual Pride Brunch at Brownstone (111 Dartmouth St., Boston 02116) from 10-11:30 a.m. Enjoy fabulous food, good cheer, and toast GMDVP and Boston Pride with a champagne mimosa! Tickets are $40 and include a champagne brunch.  

To learn more contact Joanne at 617.354.6056 and buy your tickets today!

Pride Brunch is proudly sponsored by:

Middlesex District Attorney Gerry Leone

Suffolk District Attorney Dan Conley





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Celebrate Boston Pride with GMDVP!

GMDVP is celebrating Boston Pride this year with a full weekend of festivities! First, join us on June 8th, 6:00pm at the Boston Common Gazebo where we’ll be tabling and marching in support of the Dyke March. Then, get some rest because on June 9th, our Boston Pride events continue throughout the day!

Pre-parade: Pride Brunch 

Kick-off your Pride morning with GMDVP! We will be hosting our annual Pride Brunch at Brownstone (111 Dartmouth St., Boston 02116) from 10-11:30 a.m. Enjoy good food, good cheer, and toast GMDVP and Boston Pride with a champagne mimosa! Tickets are $40 and include a champagne brunch.   To learn more contact Joanne at 617.354.6056 and buy your tickets today!

Parade: Marching!

Don a GMDVP t-shirt and march with us! Show your Pride by raising awareness and supporting survivors of domestic violence. To learn more contact Brandon at 617.354.6056.

Post-parade: Sharing our Pride

GMDVP will be tabling at Government Center. Stop by and visit us, pick up some information and a t-shirt!

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GMDVP’s 8th Annual Winter Plunge

Come Plunge with us! – or at least come out and watch the fun!

Carson Beach (South Boston), Sunday, February 26th @ Noon.

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Run the 2012 Boston Marathon For GMDVP!

Applications now available!

 On April 16, 2012, you could be one of the runners crossing the finish line of the 116th Boston Marathon, achieving a personal goal that few people will achieve in their lifetimes and raising critically needed funds for GMDVP.

Charitable marathon entries were generously made possible by the John Hancock Boston Marathon Non-Profit Program. In exchange for official marathon entries, GMDVP marathon runners will each commit to raising funds to support GMDVP’s work with victims and survivors.

GMDVP will provide both running and fundraising support to help keep you motivated and on track to successfully run the Boston Marathon.

There are only a few spots available. If you think you would like to join GMDVP’s Marathon team, call 617-354-6056 or email crogers@gmdvp.org for more information.



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12th Annual Halloween Fundraiser

GMDVP will host its 12th Annual Halloween Fundraiser on Saturday, October 22nd at the Foundation Room at the House of Blues from 8pm to 11:30 pm. Tickets are $50, student discount tickets (with valid student ID) are $25. Group ticket prices are 5 tickets for the price of 4 ($200). Purchase your tickets here.

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